logo
Login Subscribe
Google Play App Store
  • News
    • Obituaries
    • Lifestyle
    • Opinion
  • Sports
  • E-edition
  • Public Notices
  • Calendar
  • Archives
  • Contact
    • Contact Us
    • Advertisers
    • Form Submission
    • About Us
    • News
      • Obituaries
      • Lifestyle
      • Opinion
    • Sports
    • E-edition
    • Public Notices
    • Calendar
    • Archives
    • Contact
      • Contact Us
      • Advertisers
      • Form Submission
      • About Us
Measuring up
commentary
August 3, 2023
Measuring up

Last week was “Love Week” for my church, Elevation Church with Pastor Steven Furtick. He brought an amazing word from the Lord called “The God Of Also” and he challenged us to do something for someone else each day of the week. In his message he taught us that understanding the calling that God has placed on our lives also requires us to let go of the limited idea of who we believe He has created us to be. How do we “measure up?”

For most of my life I have struggled with the idea that I didn’t “measure up” compared to others. Though I was dedicated to the Lord when I was just an infant and raised in church my whole life, I constantly felt inadequate.

I even worked in the ministry teach-ing at a private Christian school and leading chapel services for 10 years, teaching “Kids for Christ” classes on Wednesday nights and Children’s Church on Sunday mornings, singing and leading worship in the church choir plus speaking at a couple ladies’ retreats but even with all these ministries, I would often struggle with the idea that I didn’t do enough or I didn’t “measure up” to others people’s expectations or God’s.

I had these ideas that I didn’t measure up because I wasn’t a boy. I had this misconception that men were stronger and smarter than women and we were put here on this earth to just serve them and I couldn’t “measure up.”

I felt like I couldn’t “measure up” because I wasn’t the prettiest. My skin was too white. I had too many freckles. My hair was too thin and of course I was never skinny enough, even though I weighed 102 pounds at 20 years old when I got pregnant with my daughter. I remember having her and still weighing 122 pounds. I was devastated and so disgusted with myself but now I’d kiss the ground to go back to those days and that weight. It’s ironic that no matter what size I was, I always wanted to be smaller. The sad reality was I could never “measure up” in my mind.

I struggled constantly because I wasn’t the perfect daughter or sister or mother that I thought I should be.

I just couldn’t “measure up” to what I thought I should be. Now I realize I was never supposed to measure up to all those ideas and concepts. I needed to let go of who I thought I was and who I thought I needed to be and just trust God. Yes, He had created me and He would make sure that “measured up” to become what He created me to be. I had a limited idea of who I was. I placed too much value on everything external and not enough of what was internal. I looked in the mirror and saw what was, but He looked and saw what would be.

Today, I still fail miserably if I try to “measure up” in my own eyes. Instead I have to see myself through His eyes. Helen Keller was an amazing American author and educator who despite her disabilities of being blind and deaf, accomplished extraordinary feats. She stated “I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but I still can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.”

What is the one thing that I can do? What is the one thing that you can do?

I’m relearning that no matter what challenges I face or how much I will not “measure up” isn’t an excuse for what I can do. If I look around I can see how to be a blessing to someone else. I can break the power of lack and greed by just giving of myself. What is the one thing that I can do to meet someone’s needs or to brighten their day?

Can I bake, or paint, or even write some words of encouragement? Can I physically do something? Can I be kind to a stranger, better yet can I be kind to my own family and friends?

So I figured out the things I could do this past week. I mowed my disabled neighbor’s yard. I bought a new expecting young mom some baby outfits. I bought lunch for my boss. I supported a new author by buying her new memoir. I made cookies for my mom on Sunday, then brought her dinner on Tuesday when she didn’t feel well. I bought my best all need to know that someone cares. We need to feel like we “measure up” but we need to see how we “measure up” through the eyes of our Savior.

Our purpose is what we are passionate about. What are you passionate about? What makes you excited? What makes your heart smile when you do it for someone else?

Remember one single act of kindness can create a domino effect throughout your community and your life. Rather than focusing on what you can’t do, find that one thing that you can do and do it! I promise you’ll be glad that you did and you will “measure up” in His eyes.

Wildcats receive All-Conference honors
B: Sports, Sports...
Wildcats receive All-Conference honors
By Rodney Haltom sports EDITOR 
March 26, 2026
Congratulations to these athletes on being selected as All-Conference athletes. This honor is voted on by the coaches within our conference, which makes it a great accomplishment to be recognized by t...
this is a test
Planting seeds of faith in a food desert
A: Main, News...
Planting seeds of faith in a food desert
By LADONNA RHODES STAFF WRITER 
March 26, 2026
Spring has sprung and with it comes a new determination to get the People’s Garden going and growing again. Planting seeds of faith for a food desert in a town that needs a whole lot more faith to see...
this is a test
PNC volunteer helps community with new pet page
A: Main, News...
PNC volunteer helps community with new pet page
By Staff Reports 
March 26, 2026
It takes a village to raise a child and to rescue dogs and cats in McIntosh County. Two years ago two local ladies, Lori Powell-Fells and LaDonna Brittle-Rhodes set out on a mission to help rescue the...
this is a test
Eufaula woman drowns in Lake Eufaula while aiding children
A: Main, News...
Eufaula woman drowns in Lake Eufaula while aiding children
March 26, 2026
A 53-year-old Eufaula woman died Sunday afternoon after drowning at Lake Eufaula in Pittsburg County. The incident occurred around 3:10 p.m. at the 9 South Swim Area, according to the Oklahoma Highway...
this is a test
A: Main, News...
City Wide Spring Trash Off Saturday, April 18
March 26, 2026
Must have current city water bill to bring items to Heritage Waste or Senior Citizen Center Trash pickup is available for the elderly and those unable to leave their homes. Call the Chamber of Commerc...
this is a test
Fort Smith police arrest suspect in connection with a stabbing that injured one woman
A: Main, News...
Fort Smith police arrest suspect in connection with a stabbing that injured one woman
March 26, 2026
Fort Smith police arrest suspect in connection with a stabbing that injured one woman A Eufaula man who previously served prison time for a stabbing in Oklahoma has been arrested in Arkansas, accused ...
this is a test
ePaper
coogle_play
app_store
Editor Picks
McIntosh County unveils new logo honoring history, heritage
A: Main, News...
McIntosh County unveils new logo honoring history, heritage
By SHAUNA BELYEU GENERAL MANAGER 
March 26, 2026
Mc-Intosh County officials have unveiled a new county logo designed to reflect the area’s history, culture and natural beauty. “This new symbol represents not only where we’ve been, but who we are tod...
this is a test
A: Main, News...
Missing person found deceased
March 26, 2026
On March 13 Muskogee County Dispatch received a call from a subject reporting the discovery of a body in a pond near the intersection of Hwy 100 and I-40 in Webbers Falls. The Muskogee County Sheriff’...
this is a test
A nest lost, a legacy continues
News
A nest lost, a legacy continues
By LADONNA RHODES STAFF WRITER 
March 26, 2026
An eagles’ nest north of Checotah has been a sacred place for over a decade as locals have had the privilege of watching a pair of North America Bald Eagles raise their young each year at the edge of ...
this is a test
Marketing on Main Street
News
Marketing on Main Street
By ALICE CANADA 
March 26, 2026
Marketing on Main Street is about practical, usable strategies that help local businesses compete in today’s marketplace. You do not need a massive budget or a full-time marketing team to be effective...
this is a test
Meet Jamie Nelson – Checotah’s newest library clerk
News
Meet Jamie Nelson – Checotah’s newest library clerk
March 26, 2026
The Jim Lucas Checotah Public Library is excited to welcome Jamie Nelson as the newest member of the library team. Jamie brings warmth, enthusiasm, and a love for both books and community to her new r...
this is a test
Facebook
Twitter
Tweets
Twitter
Tweets

MCINTOSH COUNTY DEMOCRAT
300-A S. Broadway
Checotah, OK
74426

(918) 473-2313

This site complies with ADA requirements

© 2023 Mcintosh Democrat

  • Contact
  • Privacy
  • Accessibility Policy